Your New Mantra for 2016: Own It

This next rule for coming from a place of yes will be your ally and your greatest defender, no matter what you’ve done. Rule #8 is your touchstone: Own It.

Owning it is about honesty, and copping to what you’ve done or said — no matter what. Some people say I take it too far. I am the queen of TMI. It’s my way of being myself. But no matter what I reveal, in my books, in my appearances, or anywhere else, I will always follow rule #8. I will never deny something I really said or did.

When you break the chain, take responsibility for your life, find your truth, act on it, have faith that all roads lead to Rome, go for yours with passion and dedication, and separate from the pack, you’ll absolutely have to own it. You’ve set yourself up to live with integrity, and this rule is the key to practicing that integrity.

If you do it, say it, think it — then own it, and you’ll never have to scramble to cover your tracks or remember your lies or make up any excuses. Owning it means taking that final step toward fully acknowledging who you really are.

This is an excerpt from Bethenny Frankel’s A Place of Yes: 10 Rules for Getting Everything You Want Out of Life, available on