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Need Better Time Management? Prioritize

Time management doesn’t matter much if you don’t spend your time doing what’s most important to you. This requires some soul-searching. What matters to you? Do you love the feeling of fitting a lot into your day and checking off dozens of things? Or do you know you need some downtime? This can change from day to day, so check in with yourself frequently and adjust your schedule so it’s the way you need it to be. Using time efficiently is great, but if you do too much, you’ll burn out and be worthless. If you know what’s important to you and what’s not as important you can better decide where you want to spend the minutes of your life. Know yourself.

People think I live to work, but work is actually fairly low on my priority list. I believe in doing work thoroughly and doing it well and banging it out so it all gets done, but that doesn’t mean it comes ahead of more important things. This is my priority list. What’s yours?

1. Family: Quality time with Bryn is the most important thing for me. And my furry babies, too! For you, that could mean time with your children, spouse, siblings, or parents.

2. Sleep: Quality, uninterrupted sleep is a huge priority for me.

3. Exercise: This is a priority so I can stay in shape and feel good, but when I say “exercise” I don’t mean I’m sweating it out at the gym. Basically, as far as I’m concerned, exercise is doing anything that doesn’t entail lying on my ass.

4. Recreation: Whether it’s hiking, skiing, walking on the beach, or having some other kind of adventure, recreation is important to stay balanced and enjoy life.

5. Vacation: Everybody needs time off from work, even if it’s just a few days or your just go to a neighboring city to get away from your regular routine. It’s like filling your gas tank back up.

6. Work: Work isn’t just about making money. It should be about doing something important to you or that you’re truly passionate about.

7. Beauty and relaxation: Massages, manicures, the spa, drinking lots of water – all of these are on my priority list. This also includes getting dressed up to go out.

8. Sex: With someone else or with yourself, this is important for balance. I realize this is number eight on my list. I wish it was number four.

9. Friends. A small group of friends you can really talk to and trust is more important than a big group of friends who are only casually linked. Friends are really there for you when you need them, even if you only talk on the phone. I’m usually racing around doing a million things, and it feels good when I can really stop and connect and be fully focused on time with a good friend.

10. Social life: Get out there and do things with people. You’re not a hermit. You don’t live on an island. I know you have work to do, but interacting with the human race will make you more human. (Am I talking to myself?)

This is an excerpt from Skinnygirl Solutions by Bethenny Frankel, available on

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