The Only Way to Get Your Life Moving is to Go for Yours

You could follow just the first five rules for coming from a place of yes a long time and do pretty well. You could even be very successful. Sometimes, however, you discover something you really want — something you want beyond a mere goal. It could be something like an injustice you need to right, it could be a rare opportunity that you just know you have to go for, no matter how much of a longshot it seems. When that happens, you need rule #6: Go for Yours.

This is the rule of the driven. It embodies ambition in high gear. This is the rule I’ve always used when I wanted something big and difficult, and wanted it badly, yet had no idea how to get it.

You can apply this rule to anything you really want, whether it seems big or small. Going for yours is about pursuing something with such a singular focus that you put all your energy into getting there. You’ll have to sacrifice some things. It might be tough, tiring, the hardest thing you’ve ever had to do. But if you keep rule #6 in front of you like the proverbial carrot in front of the horse, you’ll be developing a valuable skill — a skill that can bring you success. You won’t need rule #6 every day, but when you do need it, you’ll be awfully glad you’ve got it under your belt.

Do each thing you do to the best of your ability. Be passionate and committed, and go for yours. It’s the only way to get your life moving.

This is an excerpt from Bethenny Frankel’s A Place of Yes: 10 Rules for Getting Everything You Want Out of Life, available on