Stop Thinking and Start Doing: It’s Time to ‘Act on It’

The first two rules for coming from a place of yes: break the chain and find your truth, are about introspection. You go inside and figure out what you are doing, and why, leading to a clearer vision of who you are and what you want. Now it’s time to act on it.

Act on it means taking positive control of your life, and actually doing something about your goals. It means taking real, tangible steps forward. You stop thinking and start doing, even if you aren’t sure where it will lead. It’s time to start shaking things up and making changes in your life, big or small. Rule #3 helps you put things in motion, so your life can start unfolding the way you want it to.

Act on it, now, not later. Don’t wait around until you’re absolutely sure that you’re doing the right thing. You’ll never be absolutely sure. Go with your gut and act in line with your nature, and you’ll be on the right course. You may need to make adjustments later, but that’s better than not doing anything at all.

Taking action won’t always result in a direct achievement of all your dreams, but it will get you moving in the right direction. If you’ve always wanted to be a writer, sit down and start writing. If you’ve always wanted to be an athlete, get out there and start training. If you’ve always wanted to be a singer, join a choir, get a videocamera and put yourself and your song up on YouTube or enter a contest. It’s never too late — you could be the next Susan Boyle or Justin Bieber or Kelly Clarkson.

And when it happens for you, be ready.

Your dream might not turn out exactly the way you thought it would, but you’ll be better because of it — and it might even lead to a better dream, the next stage, opening up opportunities you never would have believed could have ever happened to you. That’s what acting on it can do for you — because the bottom line is, you don’t ever want to have to say, “I should have…”

This is an excerpt from Bethenny Frankel’s A Place of Yes: 10 Rules for Getting Everything You Want Out of Life, available on