bethenny frankel sometimes it is about you

Just the Tip: Sometimes It is About You

I have a philosophy about relationships: Even the ones that probably won’t last are worth working on because it is about you. Even in the wrong relationship that you are staying in for whatever personal reason, you can workshop it.

A challenging relationship is an opportunity to work on yourself so that down the line, in the next relationship, you won’t keep having this same issue. When a relationship feels uncomfortable, make it about you. Dive in and really figure out what’s happening. Get to the bottom of the insecurity, the jealousy, the boredom, the disrespect.

Try to work through it because you will be better for it later, with or without that relationship in your life.

This is an excerpt from I Suck at Relationships So You Don’t Have To: 10 Rules for Not Screwing Up Your Happily Ever After, available on