learn everything bethenny frankel

Learn Everything

Learning, in real life, in real time is an important part of acting on your truth. It’s about accumulating experiences that you can use later, when you might need them. Even when that crappy job doesn’t seem relevant or your life isn’t going so well, the point is that it might become relevant, or some aspect of your life now may become relevant later, just when you need it. No matter what you are doing, always learn – it’s all life experience.

I’ve had a lot of jobs. Some have been great and some have been horrible. I’ve done it all, from stuffing envelopes in a cubicle to waitressing to event planning to being on television. I will never have to look back on my life and say I didn’t have a good time, but I’ve also worked really hard to get where I am. I’ve learned a lot and taught myself how to ignore my focus noise (most of the time – nobody’s perfect). Some of those skills seemed pointless at the time, but they turned out to be surprisingly relevant later.

For example, when I first moved to Los Angeles, I went to bartending school. I didn’t become a career bartender, so was that a wasted experience? No. Now, years later, I’m in the liquor business with my Skinnygirl cocktails. Who knew?

Whether you’re working in an office, bussing tables, transcribing medical records, or doing the accounting for somebody else’s small business, you just never know when you’ll learn something that you’ll need. Your experience is your toolbox, and you’re filling it up right now by acting on it. Someday, you might suddenly have to have that one special wrench you never thought you’d need.

I’ve had my share of “I don’t need to know that” moments, but in general, I’m so glad I’ve always been into a lot of things because now I know about a lot of things, and it’s paid off a hundred times over. Learn everything you can, every day of your life. Prove the naysayers wrong when they say that youth is wasted on the young, or that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. Act on it – “it” being your life. At any age, at any stage. Because your life depends on it.

Work hard, learn, do your best – and have fun.

This is an excerpt from A Place of Yes by Bethenny Frankel, available on