How to Turn Your Mistakes into Your Big Moment

Most of us resolve to make big changes in the new year: to exercise more, to spend more time with our families, to be a better person. Eventually, we make mistakes — but even those can lead to something better. Remember: All Roads Lead to Rome.

There’s no getting around it. Sometimes, in life, if you take risks, if you go big, you’re going to screw up. You’re going to do the wrong thing. And the beauty is that sometimes, the wrong thing can lead you straight to what’s right, even when you think there’s no hope, or that you’re going completely in the wrong direction. Of course, hindsight is 20/20, and objects in the mirror are larger than they appear. You won’t know this at the time, but you will be able to see it later.

Remember rule #5 and you’ll know how to come from a place of yes again, because this rule reminds you that no matter what you’ve done, even if you regret it, even if you don’t know what the hell to do next, every single thing that happens to you has the potential to open new doors. It happened for a reason — and it’s still taking you somewhere, even if you can’t see it right now.

All roads lead to Rome means that as long as you are working hard and doing your best — when you are following your truth, acting on it, and making everything your business — then everything you do will eventually get you where you want to go — or someplace even better.

Every experience leads somewhere, and your life will be what you make of it. Sometimes the worst experiences have the best results, hidden just around the bend. If you can have a little perspective when things aren’t going well, you will see that it’s not always about what you are getting right now, it’s often more about where you are going and what right now will grow into, later.

The reward isn’t always immediate, but it’s always out there. As long as you are working toward something with integrity and passion, you’ll be getting closer and closer to your big moment, your launch, your flight. Your Rome.

This is an excerpt from Bethenny Frankel’s A Place of Yes: 10 Rules for Getting Everything You Want Out of Life, available on