How to Choose Happiness and Celebrate the Good Things in Life

The final rule for coming from a place of yes brings sweetness to your life and can help you come from a place of yes on any occasion, big or small, whether it’s your birthday or just any other day in your life. Rule #10: Celebrate!

Milestones have a way of freaking people out. Whatever your milestone, you can choose to get anxious about it, or you can choose to come from a place of yes and celebrate it. Milestones present you with good reasons to breathe and reassess your life. Will you focus on aging — the dark circles, the fine lines, the stress they cause that makes them worse? Or will you celebrate how far you’ve come, how much you’ve gained, all the good things you have?

Maybe it sounds like a cliche, but if you can make celebrating a real, honest part of your life, then every gain, all your work, will be worthwhile. You can celebrate as much or as little as you want. Make it yours. You decide.

The business of being happy requires making a conscious choice. People think being happy will just happen to them someday, if only they do this or that right. But it doesn’t — you have to choose it. You choose happiness, you don’t wait for it to choose you. You have to choose to celebrate.

Life is precious. Love is precious. Celebrate the many good things you have instead of focusing on the worries, and you’ll find success, inner calm, and happiness at last.

This is an excerpt from Bethenny Frankel’s A Place of Yes: 10 Rules for Getting Everything You Want Out of Life, available on