A Place of Yes: Find Your Truth

Who are you, and what do you want?

It’s not an interrogation. It’s a call to introspection. How often have you locked back at a certain decision and actions, and wondered what you were thinking? Maybe you weren’t thinking. Or maybe you weren’t thinking hard enough. People say they know who they are and they think they know what they want, but they go through life making random decisions without thinking about the potential impact.

Let’s talk about truth. If you want to come from a place of yes, to move forward with your life and become the best version of yourself, you have to seek truth. You have to ask yourself what’s genuine and true for you – not for your parents, your friends, or your society, but for you.

Finding your truth is the key to finding your life. How can you pursue a dream if it isn’t your dream? Do you even know what your dream is? Finding your truth is not something you can fully know right this second. It’s like putting the pieces of a puzzle together. It takes time, concentration, and concerted effort. It evolves. Everything that happens to you, each experience, each stumble or achievement, is another piece, and the more the puzzle comes together, the more clearly you start to see where the next pieces should go.

When you are faced with a major decision, like whether to get married, change jobs, or move to another city, it is essential to seek what’s true for you, rather than for the people around you. The people around you will always want you to do what they want. That’s human nature. Unless you know what you want, you’ll be making decisions and living your life on somebody else’s terms.

Even when the decision is a small one, finding your truth will make everything clearer. You won’t get distracted misled, or lose focus, because you know what’s true. When you know who you are and what you want, you’ll be more confident, even if you don’t always know exactly what the outcome of a decision will be.


This is an excerpt from Bethenny Frankel’s A Place of Yes, available on