'RHOA' Husbands Peter Thomas, Apollo Nida & Greg Leakes + Mom Debate: The Parenting Rules + How to Score: Cracking the Credit Code

Monday, 08.11.14 // Filed Under: Episodes // (12) Comments
'RHOA' Husbands Peter Thomas, Apollo Nida & Greg Leakes + Mom Debate: The Parenting Rules + How to Score: Cracking the Credit Code

Peter Thomas, Apollo Nida, and Greg Leakes — the real husbands behind those "Real Housewives of Atlanta" — dish on all the drama this season, including the now infamous texting incident. You wanna know what a man thinks? Ask a man! You wanna know what Nene's man thinks? Ask Nene's man! Done and done. 

The Parenting Rules: In a fascinating Mom Debate, Bethenny and her audience have a lively conversation about which is better, strict or slack parenting? Wait until you hear our guest talk about her approach, called "unschooling," in which her 6-year-old can stay up until 2 a.m. and her children are never spanked, punished, or given any rules at all!

You can talk to your girlfriends about anything... except your credit score! Our brilliant expert reveals three sneaky things that can damage your score, which is a more important number than your age, weight, or your shoe size, and you probably pay a lot more attention to those!

 

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Gig
180 days ago

Wow, where did you find so many judgemental and ignorant audience members!? I am a mother of 4 children and use a combination (a balance) but I sure would not judge and state that the way I parent is the best way. Our society is a mess mostly because of absent parents and lack of communication. The unschooling mom seemed to be the most grounded and intelligent one on your panel. The strict parent is a control freak living and parenting from a place of fear. I don't think I'll watch your show again ( this is only the third time). just too many fear based people who need to look in the mirror at their own issues.

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L
180 days ago

I think there is a necessary balance to parenting. I understand this idea of "no rules" and in that, being the roll to follow. However as a parent, I have rules that I must follow, just as my husband does. Some that I've put on myself, some that are expected, but they are also a model for behaviour and there are most definitely consequences. So for my children to have no "arbitrary" rules, well THAT would be the unbalanced, preferential treatment.

Anyway, in addition to bedtime (yikes! My 3yo may think he wants to push bedtime, but once he's in bed no later than 8pm every night, he is one happy little dude), I'm wondering about lack of rules for screen time, running into the street, hitting the kid next door, throwing your trash on the ground, etc? Just regular every day things that have very important, safe boundaries. I wouldn't classify myself anywhere NEAR authoritative, however we have healthy boundaries and in terms of parenting, we rarely have stress (of course other parts of our lives spark some stress - parenting and our sons behaviour, etc, just isn't one of those things). I get the idea of discussion in replace of rules.. for example, when my son was 18 mths and ran into our quiet road, it was a teachable moment. I explained that that was very very dangerous. I then proceeded to set the rule: we never, ever run into the road. That is a very strict rule we abide by. All of us. Sure, I hope he is self-motivated enough NOT to put his life at risk, but as a teeny little human in a big, unknown world, it has less to do with understanding & self value, and a ton more to do with a lack of ability to comprehend and a short term memory. So, a boundary works wonders.

I'm guessing this also has a bit to do with disciplinary things like time outs. To which I say, when I am on the verge of a freak out, let's say because my dog has the runs and just destroyed my carpet. I quietly excuse myself and sit down on my own to have some time to work it all out. When my lil dude has a freak out because, for instance, the circle won't fit in the square so he throws it at the completely unaware dogs, he is given some time to sort that all out and then return to the world of happy with a new outlook.

I feel like this is a lot more about nomenclature than anything, but I could be wrong. Tomato, tomahto?

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Johanna
180 days ago

Authoritarian parenting is not the best parenting style. I was raised by authoritative parents. Being told what to do for every aspect of your life hurts the child. It doesn't allow them to grow up into the person that they are, just makes them try to grow into the person that you want them to be, making them unhappy because they can never please you. It leads to low self worth, social problems, and much more.

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Sinai
180 days ago

I am sick and tired of these parents saying that parents who think their child should wait until they are married to have sex are being too extreme, and they have expectations that a child can't meet. Are you kidding?? A year ago I got married a virgin (22 yrs old). I was one of the few who made it through my teen and college years without having sex before marriage, why? because my parents had High expectations for me, and that was their rule. And I loved and respect my parents enough to do what they tell me to. They are wise beyond their years, and they have done their best to protect me and my siblings. If you are a parent, and have high expectations for your child, as well as boundaries, don't get discouraged by people who think young men and women should be free to prostitute their bodies. Be their parent, not their best friend, and you will see the fruits of your work.

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Mary W.
180 days ago

OMG! I have always liked Phaedra, however her comment that Atlanta does not consider going to 'strip clubs' negatively is ridiculous! Maybe in HER circles! What!! Not in the "REAL people of Atlanta's" circles!

Also, Cynthia's husband Peter is a handsome well groomed black man until he opens his mouth! His grammar is terrible! Surprised Cynthia ( who is well spoken and gorgeous) would go for someone who destroys the English language as he does. Not saying he is not intelligent just needs to IMPROVE on language!
He doesn't match his look. Such a shame!

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UNIQUE
180 days ago

TO HAVE YOUR 6 YEAR OLD CHILD GO TO BED AT 6 IN THE MORNING IS REDUNDANT. RULES A NECESSARY AS A GUIDANCE TO LIFE BECAUSE REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOUR RULES ARE THERE ARE RULES IN THE WORLD AND/OR SOCIETY THAT THEY HAVE TO ABIDE BY.SO IF THEY CHOOSE TO KILL ITS OK WITH YO BUT ACCORDING TO THE LAW THEY WILL GO TO JAIL.THEY NEED THE SIMPLE GUIDELINES TO PREPARE THEM FOR THE ONES THE WORLD EXPECTS OF THEM AND SO THEY DON'T TAKE IT OVERBOARD BECAUSE THEY JUST WEREN'T TAUGHT BETTER. (PARENTS FAULT)

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181 days ago

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zhanaya
183 days ago

i swear i am getting a new computer because my keyboard is completely messed up. i have to type ever so slowly in order to make any sense of what i am writin. in my above comments, unfortunately, i was typing too fast and many letters were inadvertently chopped off. i apologize. those are all typo's above and not just unadulterated ignorance. so please forgive the letter omissions. : )

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zhanaya
183 days ago

i agree wholeheartedly with Sharon Baumann; Bethenny, you must keep thi show on th air. i do not want to see it cancelled like the anderson cooper show [that i am tll grieving over]. you guest s are ctally fine but your prolem seems to be with all of this "relationship" preoccupaton. you should take ice cube's advice and "go for what you know". stop with all the tak about men versus women. get back to what you do best which is: BUSINESS ADVICE FOR WOMEN WHO WANT TO GO INTO BUSINESS; HELPNG WOMEN WITH THEIR BUSIESS IDEAS and your RECIPE REVAMPS. these are the things that separate your show from the other SHOWS. no other talk show can compete with your show when you do the above. but when all you do is focus on relatioships, you are no different from THE REAL or MIND OF A MAN. let those shows be whatever they want to be; you should just be contect with doing what you do BEST. guests do nt always make the show. you culd have B listers, C listers, even D listers. asking the right question is KEY, and not how important a guest is. i am a 70 year old black woman but i would rather hear you interview the music group FUN. than to listen to ANYONE interview rihanna. she's overdone while FUN. is still fun.

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sharon Baumann
183 days ago

Bethenny:
I have followed you from the beginning and admire you as a straight shooter but I think your talk show is starting to be too much like "watch what happens live". If you want to run with the BIG DOGS you need BIG STARS. How about some singers performing. Mix it up. I don't want to see your show get cancelled like Katie's. I'm still watching and you won't lose me.

One of your girls!
Sharon

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Evelyn Simek
185 days ago

Hi Bethany its Evelyn again, I'm sorry I'm such a pain.
Its the Show with Rene from Mob wives, They were
talking on the panel about life with men.And one of
the lady said a "word " I have'nt heard before . Im in
an unhappy marriage , and that was it ... And I thought
I would remember it "oops" I didn't ....... :[ xxx

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