Ask Bethenny // 06.23.14 // 3 Comments

Dealing with a Liar? Ask Them These Questions

Janine Driver shares some hotspots you can look for when asking loved ones, friends and children difficult questions.

Hotspots to Look For:
Shrugged shoulders
Tongue protrusion
Head shaking up and down while saying "no"
Repeating questions before answering
Offering evidence before it is asked for

What to Do About These Hotspots?

If someone repeats a question, it is a hotspot, you have to investigate.

When someone does this, they are often hiding things. Janine says you have to be cautious when investigating on your own and try not to jump to conclusions. A lie is not always what you think it is, and if you tell someone a lie, you may be able to get the truth out of them.

When you notice an increase in stress and anxiety, ask a powerful question: Is there any reason why you weren't being truthful? -- do not be a mind reader. Ask questions and make sure the person shares the answers.

Secrets do not always break a marriage or friendship, but it is good to know when someone may be lying to you. If you are lying to a friend or partner, remember (as Janine said on today's show) that you may be projecting your feelings onto the situation.

Find out if your body language is sending the wrong message, by reading this.

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71 days ago

Jesus Christ, Bethenny wake up! You suck as a host. You invite guests and then you attack them! You might wanna act like cool host who can do everything, screw that!!! That was my first and last time I watched your show!

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Sherrell Phillips Lopez
292 days ago

Although Ms. Driver is probably accurate at what she does, she also needs to realize that she may not view herself the way others actually see her. I watched the episode and heard her mention that she was not aggressive. She may not realize when she is trying to bring home a point her voice raises to a higher pitch and her verbilization becomes very fast as trying to overtalk her "opponent"....also she tends to get defensive if there is a disagreement of her view. You handled her well though Beth!

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293 days ago

I had so much respect for you Bethenny with how you handled the segment with the wife saving some of her own money ``just in case.`` Even with my lack of knowledge of body language I think Vicor would take it .
You are fabulous and kind and great with your guests.

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