Dealing with a Liar? Ask Them These Questions
Janine Driver shares some hotspots you can look for when asking loved ones, friends and children difficult questions.
Hotspots to Look For:
Head shaking up and down while saying "no"
Repeating questions before answering
Offering evidence before it is asked for
What to Do About These Hotspots?
If someone repeats a question, it is a hotspot, you have to investigate.
When someone does this, they are often hiding things. Janine says you have to be cautious when investigating on your own and try not to jump to conclusions. A lie is not always what you think it is, and if you tell someone a lie, you may be able to get the truth out of them.
When you notice an increase in stress and anxiety, ask a powerful question: Is there any reason why you weren't being truthful? -- do not be a mind reader. Ask questions and make sure the person shares the answers.
Secrets do not always break a marriage or friendship, but it is good to know when someone may be lying to you. If you are lying to a friend or partner, remember (as Janine said on today's show) that you may be projecting your feelings onto the situation.
Find out if your body language is sending the wrong message, by reading this.