In the Bedroom // 01.29.13 // 6 Comments

'Is it Wrong to Fake It?' and Other Questions

I am so extremely excited to have Dr. Raj here to answer some of your questions on You might recognize her from my talk show this summer, where she answered some great health questions from the audience—everything from how to improve oral sex to how to avoid breaking a penis (yes, it’s possible!). Be sure to leave your questions in the comments so she can answer them in a future blog! Xo B

'Is it Wrong to Fake It?' and Other Questions

As a practicing physician and women's health expert, I have heard it all when it comes to embarrassing medical questions! I even had the pleasure of answering many on Bethenny's talk show last summer. Well, now I am here to answer your burning health questions, so don't be shy, and remember - I am un-shockable.

Let's start with a few questions I am often asked by my girlfriends:

Is it wrong to "fake it"?

The female orgasm is a tricky beast. Many women are not able to have an orgasm during straight intercourse, and even for those who usually can, if they are stressed or upset it may not happen. Occasionally "faking it “because you are ready to end the love-making session (kids are about to break in or your favorite TV show is about to start) is not the worst thing in the world, and most women have done it at least once. But if you find yourself faking it often or consistently, then it is a sign you need to work on your sex life with your partner. Perhaps you need to show him what really turns you on, try different positions, or maybe there are deeper emotional issues that need to be resolved. Although you may be Meryl Streep in the bedroom, when it comes to sex, honesty is the best (and most pleasurable) policy.

What vitamins or foods are good for your sex drive?

While many have touted the aphrodisiac properties of certain foods like oysters for years, the truth is that the mind, more than any food or vitamin, is the most powerful aphrodisiac. That being said, sex is a highly physical activity and vitamins that help boost energy will help keep up your stamina in the bedroom. So make sure you get a daily dose of B vitamins, vitamin D and vitamin C.

What foods are good for your mood?

Fish are great for boosting your mood because they contain omega-3 fatty acids, which can help ward off depression, and because eating fish can boost serotonin (a feel-good neurotransmitter). Foods containing Vitamin D (milk, yogurt) can also help increase serotonin levels.  A balanced breakfast with whole grains and fiber can help stabilize your mood throughout the day. And I know you asked about food, but don't forget about exercise - the best mood-booster I know!

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Kenneth Russell
107 days ago

From a man's perspective yes it is absolutely wrong to fake it! That is tantamount to lying! Also would like to know why it seems like I'm being ignored! Have made two comments and haven't received any responses. Haven't even received a thank you for signing up! Do you not care about your male viewers, I'm sure there aren't very many but I like to stay up to date on what ladies are talking about! A simple yes we care or no we don't would be appreciated. the only thing worse than a No is BEING IGNORED!

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pat kondrick
315 days ago

my number one fitness goal is to improve balance and core strength and reduce chronic pain in injured and aging joints. keep eating healthy and maintain my weight.

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316 days ago

Miley...clueless.....61...and still going for it...

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319 days ago

Hi bethenny, I am 23 years old and I have never had an orgasm!!!!!
I've been married since I was 18 and I kept thinking that's it was because I wal young but I am tired of waiting !!!!! We've tried different positions, lubes, and vibrators!!!!!! I want to feel that feeling everyone talks about!!!! What's wrong with me!! Am I missing something! My husband gets what he wants and I can't and by the time he's finished I always mad because I didn't get mine and I end up taking it out on him! Help please

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336 days ago

Bethenny I love your show Iwas diagnosised with fibro 3yrs ago .Ijust wanted too thank you for making me laugh & keeping it real Love you .Lisa Szymanski

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488 days ago

Yes its wrong to fake it..its better to accept you arent going to HAVE AN O all the time and be honest with your partner.. The bottom line is your partner isnt MEETING YOUR OVERALL NEEDS.. but sometimes, as it goes for guys its just a release and you arent going to have the whole full course meal. WHY LIE ABOUT IT? WE ALL KNOW IT.. You are doing yourself a disservice cause even if he finishes.. he can still manually stimulate and share with you.. so whats there to lie about ? You have to let yourself and your partner be comfortable enough to know I accept you arent going to be the MASTER LOVER EVERY TIME.. and accept is not always in each of your favor.. Ill get you the next time is ok too..

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