'Is it Wrong to Fake It?' and Other Questions
I am so extremely excited to have Dr. Raj here to answer some of your questions on Bethenny.com. You might recognize her from my talk show this summer, where she answered some great health questions from the audience—everything from how to improve oral sex to how to avoid breaking a penis (yes, it’s possible!). Be sure to leave your questions in the comments so she can answer them in a future blog! Xo B
As a practicing physician and women's health expert, I have heard it all when it comes to embarrassing medical questions! I even had the pleasure of answering many on Bethenny's talk show last summer. Well, now I am here to answer your burning health questions, so don't be shy, and remember - I am un-shockable.
Let's start with a few questions I am often asked by my girlfriends:
Is it wrong to "fake it"?
The female orgasm is a tricky beast. Many women are not able to have an orgasm during straight intercourse, and even for those who usually can, if they are stressed or upset it may not happen. Occasionally "faking it “because you are ready to end the love-making session (kids are about to break in or your favorite TV show is about to start) is not the worst thing in the world, and most women have done it at least once. But if you find yourself faking it often or consistently, then it is a sign you need to work on your sex life with your partner. Perhaps you need to show him what really turns you on, try different positions, or maybe there are deeper emotional issues that need to be resolved. Although you may be Meryl Streep in the bedroom, when it comes to sex, honesty is the best (and most pleasurable) policy.
What vitamins or foods are good for your sex drive?
While many have touted the aphrodisiac properties of certain foods like oysters for years, the truth is that the mind, more than any food or vitamin, is the most powerful aphrodisiac. That being said, sex is a highly physical activity and vitamins that help boost energy will help keep up your stamina in the bedroom. So make sure you get a daily dose of B vitamins, vitamin D and vitamin C.
What foods are good for your mood?
Fish are great for boosting your mood because they contain omega-3 fatty acids, which can help ward off depression, and because eating fish can boost serotonin (a feel-good neurotransmitter). Foods containing Vitamin D (milk, yogurt) can also help increase serotonin levels. A balanced breakfast with whole grains and fiber can help stabilize your mood throughout the day. And I know you asked about food, but don't forget about exercise - the best mood-booster I know!